The Starting Line
There’s a delicate balance between being seen and not being seen. Being unseen offers a sense of safety but can also lead to loneliness. On the other hand, being seen brings attention, with its rewards and risks. Visibility allows us to connect, open doors to new opportunities, and challenge you to grow in unexpected ways. It allows you to share your experiences, inspire others, and be part of something larger than yourself.
“When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everyone will respect you.” – Laozi
Authenticity is the foundation of both being seen and unseen.
The Path
At a recent family event, I found myself fading into the background, feeling both safe and isolated. I was not the highlight; the party was not for me. It was an event where I observed society once again—this time in a society I was and am supposed to be a part of, the United States.
In South Korea, there’s no way to hide. At that family gathering in the United States, I had the option, and at times, I felt comfort in that. But I also felt more pressure to get it “right” and remember everything.
I realized that visibility isn’t just about being noticed—it’s about connecting with others, opening doors to new relationships, and creating opportunities for growth. When you’re seen, you’re challenged to grow and learn in ways you might not otherwise.
Most of my learnings from my time abroad are universal:
- Be the first to engage
- Ask genuine questions
This has always been why I flourish in another country. I’m not afraid to look foolish, ask questions, and take the lead.
The Finish Line
Navigating between visibility and invisibility is an ongoing journey. Balance is always the work. It’s about embracing both, knowing when to step forward and when to step back, always with clarity and intention.
Stay Liberated
Peace be the journey,
-Ace
One Way Grit 